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I recently enjoyed a vacation with my sons, which highlighted the invaluable benefits of genuine face-to-face time. If you're seeking ways to deepen conversations with your partner, children, parents, or friends, I recommend exploring the Proust Questionnaire. It's a fantastic tool for sparking meaningful dialogue. Check out the link in the comments for more details and watch this video to learn how it can transform your interactions.
In a world where opinions seem to dominate every conversation, how about we try something different? Let's be the individuals who prioritize understanding over asserting, who ask the questions rather than rushing to provide the answers. Imagine the impact we could make by choosing to be voices of kindness, seeking to comprehend every perspective. Watch this video to learn more...
Why did you hire me? What a powerful question to ask your boss or your client. Hidden in the answer are the unnamed expectations which we’re often unaware of, but that really tell us what’s important to them. Watch this video to learn more!
Reflecting on the essence of our lives amidst the hustle of business, work, family, and friendships, a profound question emerges: What is the way life should be for you? When was the last time you paused and thought, "Life is good"?
In the relentless pursuit of success and fulfillment, it's essential to carve out moments for introspection, to identify what truly makes life worth living for each of us. These moments of clarity not only refresh our perspective but also anchor us in gratitude and purpose.
Whether it's the joy found in small daily achievements, the peace of early morning solitude, the laughter shared with loved ones, or the satisfaction derived from making a positive impact—these are the experiences that weave the tapestry of a fulfilling life. Watch this video to see what one of mine was recently.
I encourage everyone in my network to take a moment today to reflect on this: What aspects of your life bring you the most joy and fulfillment? How can you incorporate more of these moments into your everyday life? Let me know in the comments!
Let's share and celebrate the diverse and personal ways we each find meaning and happiness in our lives. Your insights could inspire others to pause and appreciate the beauty of their journeys.
This holiday season, as we all enjoy our favorite movies, let's engage in a little deeper reflection. While you're watching, ponder this: How does this movie mirror real life, embody a leadership principle, or reflect the way people shape their personalities?
Every film, whether it's a heartwarming holiday classic or a thrilling adventure, has layers of meaning and insight. Perhaps there's a character whose journey parallels a leadership challenge, or maybe the storyline offers a unique perspective on personal growth and development.
As you watch, ask yourself:
- What real-life situations does this movie remind me of?
- Are there leadership qualities displayed that I can learn from?
- How do the characters’ experiences shape their personalities?
Movies are more than just entertainment; they're a reflection of our lives, challenges, and growth. So, grab your popcorn, settle in, and let's find inspiration and insights in our favorite holiday films!
Recently, I had the privilege of presenting and facilitating a session with the Gift of Hope Organ and Tissue Donor Network in Itasca, IL. What an incredible experience!
This organization's mission is truly life-changing. They transform the sorrow of loss into a beacon of hope by facilitating vital organ and tissue donations to those in need. Their dedication and compassion in providing a second chance at life to many is nothing short of awe-inspiring.
As I left, the sky above mirrored the beauty of their mission - a brilliant display, much like their welcoming spirit. I'm honored to have worked with such a mission-driven group, making a profound difference in so many lives.
Recently, while out driving, I came across some amusing sights that sparked a thought: What if we brought more playfulness into our professional and personal lives?
Imagine the impact of infusing a playful spirit at work, with our families, and even in how we treat ourselves. Playfulness isn't just about humor; it's about approaching life with a lighter heart, a willingness to laugh, and an openness to the unexpected joys around us.
Let's embrace a bit more playfulness in our daily routines. It could be the key to not only brighter days but also more creative and fulfilling experiences in all aspects of our lives. Watch this video to learn more and let me know what you think!
Yesterday, a priest friend shared with me a heartwarming anecdote from his recent experience. After guiding a group of fourth graders through a tour of a grand, historic cathedral, he asked them to reflect on what they found most memorable from the 45-minute journey.
To his surprise, one young boy singled out the "EXIT" sign as his standout memory. Initially thinking the boy was being cheeky, the priest curiously inquired, "And why the EXIT sign?" The boy's response was unexpectedly profound. He said, "It seems to me that we're only in this place for a short while, but the truly significant part is what we do when we 'exit'." His insightful comment beautifully captured the essence of life's transient nature and the lasting impact of our actions.
This Thanksgiving I am most thankful for those of you who have made an impact on me, as well as those who have actually exited from your place of worship, your home, or your LinkedIn Feed, in order to be present to me and mine.
Happy happy Thanksgiving to you all!
As coaches, mentors, or leaders, one of our key roles is to unlock the potential in others. The right questions can be powerful tools in this process. Here are three impactful questions that can help get to the core of what someone truly needs from us:
1️⃣ "What’s THE real challenge for you now?"
This question cuts through the noise and helps focus on the immediate, primary issue at hand.
2️⃣ "And what else?"
This prompts deeper reflection, encouraging a broader exploration of challenges and perspectives.
3️⃣ "What do you want?"
A simple yet profound question that drives clarity of purpose and goals.
By asking these questions, we can more accurately pinpoint the heart of the matter, facilitating more effective and meaningful support.
Try incorporating these into your next coaching or mentoring session and see how they transform the conversation.
Ever thought of capturing the magic of your team's ideas during meetings? Start jotting down those brilliant quotes and affirmations your team members share.
Imagine the impact of sending out a quick recap within an hour of the meeting, highlighting these golden moments. It's a small gesture that makes each person feel seen and valued - after all, hearing our names spoken and seeing them in print is always special.
Yes, crafting this memo takes a bit of time, but the investment in recognizing and celebrating your team's contributions is invaluable. It's not just a recap; it's a morale booster and a testament to your leadership. Give it a try and watch the positive vibes grow!
Be mindful of the words people choose and how they use them. Each word carries weight and meaning—crafted by the user. This week, make a point of really listening to someone’s chosen words. And for yourself, speak thoughtfully, write with intention, and observe the impact your words have.
Go to a traditional Montessori classroom and you will see a beehive of activity. You’ll actually need to look closely to find the teacher. They are great at fading into the walls, observing, briefly intervening, and then moving with grace and gentleness around the busy, busy classroom.
Could you attend a meeting with quiet attention? Can you let your team struggle with mistakes? Let the beehive happen and see then what happens to engagement, involvement, and the beauty of what Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs called “the courage to be imperfect.”
All of the great innovators were OK with early problems, errors, and even failures. Let your team experience the same as what the geniuses have.
Respecting someone by remembering their name isn't just courteous—it's a gateway to a meaningful connection. When you call someone by their name, it's not just a word; it's an honor, a recognition that they matter.
Watch this video to learn more, and drop your best name-remembering techniques below 👇 Let's transform every introduction into a lasting impression.
As the leader of the group, the expert, the one with the experience it is quite tempting to weigh in early and often. It saves time, gets right to the point, and solves the problem.
Or does it? What if you weighed in last, used some words the others had used, responded to someone who needed some affirmation with a “Tell me more…” and even asked some “I wonder…” questions?
Of course, it is easy to judge who did their homework, who is the shining rising star, who is the pleaser, who shirks the spotlight; but what if instead of judging (in your mind or out loud) you simply say, “Isn’t that interesting!”
“And the reason I say that is…” I was recently reminded of how powerful it is to provide an explanation for your ideas. This small yet effective practice allows others to truly hear and contemplate your ideas before rushing to a quick 'yes' or 'no' response. Give it a shot in your next meeting, conversation with a colleague, or even when chatting with your spouse, and share your experience with me!
· Phone calls: “Is this a good time for you?”
· One-on-one meetings: “I’d like to talk about what we are to accomplish here today and then invite you to tell me what you most want to have happen at the end of this meeting.”
· Meetings with specialists: “Today, think of me as your student and you as my professor. I want to learn what I need to know that you already know.” (thanks to Mehmood Khan)
· Meetings with students, residents, and observers: “What would you like to learn today?”
· Meeting someone who is mad at you: “I am so appreciative of you coming today; how can we figure this out together?”
· Meeting with your administrative assistants, department heads or nurses on the floor: “What do you know, that I don’t know, that I should know?”
· End of meetings: “I’d like to take a moment to remind myself and all of us why we met today (for patients’ safety, for nurse morale, to secure the finances so we can continue our mission, etc.) Thanks to Dr Frank Dono, (RIP) from OhioHealth
· When asked if you have a minute: “Yes, I have two but then I have to run off…want to schedule more time for later today?”
· When you want to avoid a downer discussion of how things are not going well: “What have you noticed today that is better or different?” Then respond with “How did you/we get to make that happen?” (thanks to John Walter, ACSW and Nancy Belvisi, ACSW)
· When you have reached your limit at home or at work and you know the next words coming out of your mouth will not be good: “Excuse me for a minute, I have to go to the bathroom!” Few will object or follow you (lock the door!) and you’ll have precious time to think! (thanks to Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs)
Do you have any you can add?
Unlock the power of conversation with just three magic words: "And what else?" Try it out and watch how your discussions become richer and more meaningful. Watch this video to learn more!
Sarcasm! From the Greek word literally translated: “To tear the flesh like dogs!” Our inner translation when we are sarcastic: “Funny insightful me!” The recipient’s inner experience: “Ouch!”
Sarcasm is common banter in our culture. Perhaps it is a kind of jousting while ostensibly jesting. But consider what it is like to be the target of the sarcasm. That might not be as welcomed. Equivalent to being in a courtroom: would you rather be the one asking the questions or the one in the witness box having to answer them? We can replace sarcasm with encouragement…or even kindness!
I recently asked a friend when she is retiring. Her response: “I’m not retiring Kevin, I'm repurposing.’ And indeed, she is! It got me thinking about how we don’t have to wait to retire in order to repurpose. We can do it now!
How can we provide more to someone or some meeting or some initiative? Why do we always sit in the same place in our in-person meetings and what would happen if we didn’t? What if we followed up with an encouraging email to someone on the team who was brave today? Could we construct a new 90-day plan for ourselves that is at least a little more radically different than the previous one? And what new word do I want to give to a challenging person I lead who is too aggressive, impatient, always angry? Might they be determined? Focused? Fearful? If I did see them this way, how would I change how I understand them and deal with them?
It's an interesting idea right!? In the words of Shakespeare “What’s in a name?”
Let's talk about my new favorite term: "Light touch". It's really helpful in many situations. Watch this video to learn more...
