When you get discouraged or lose an account or a job, consider not what happened to you but rather consider your skills, not your fate. What are you best at? And how did you show up regardless of what they thought? How can you use your adaptability at this moment of time? How did you get through tough times before? It is so easy to find yourself in a pit of someone else’s making and begin to sit and stare at the sunlight disappearing. Instead of using a shovel to go deeper, use the shovel to carve out steps. Your shovel is your tool of talents. When we let others define us, even in our grandest successes, we are unknowingly setting ourselves up to be unaware of what got us there. It requires that we have faith in ourselves as others have in us.