Hypnotists often say, “Close your eyes.” This for some of us can be a kind of command that some of us will resist. When we teach our students at Chicago’s Loyola University a meditation or relaxation sequence we now use, “You can close your eyes or not close your eyes, you decide.” This sets up an inevitable cooperative experience so that no matter what they choose to do they are not resisting but cooperating. How does this apply to your clients? It is always helpful to set up an inevitable cooperative experience to avoid open or quiet resistance. Consider asking questions first with your clients even when you are making a statement. “I’ll give you an example” is OK. Better “May I give you an example?” This requires a response from the other either verbally or mentally to elicit cooperation. You can do this! I mean “May I ask if you will do this?!”